What to Write in a Wedding Card

When you’re writing your wedding card – whether it be a thankyou for being invited to the wedding or an early congratulations in an engagement card, there’s a few key ideas to keep in mind.

Address your wedding card to the couple as a pair – it’s likely to be read by both of them, so you should ensure you congratulate both!

Make sure you spell their names correctly – they’ll absolutely notice if you don’t.

Keep it short and sweet – as much as you may want to write a novel, if you have a lot to say it’s difficult to fit it all in the space of a standard wedding card.

Plan ahead and write a draft – then you can say what you mean the way you want to say it, without feeling rushed.

Keep it real and make it sound like you – Most couples keep their wedding cards for years to come as mementos, so make sure it sounds like it’s come from you.

Friends with the bride? You'll likely have insight into the dizzying excitement, meticulous detail and copious amounts of hairspray that have made the day possible. Your support and encouragement will mean the world as your friend makes the ultimate commitment. Childhood memories, kind words of advice and compliments are all great inclusions.

In addition, don't discount the power of humour! 

• You look so beautiful! <name> is perfect for you. All the best wishes I can give are yours today.
• When we talked about who you'd marry someday, I never dreamed you'd find someone who loves you and cares so much for you as <name> does. All my love and support today and always.  
• On the occasion of your wedding, I couldn't be more proud of the woman you've become.
• So, you're marrying <name>. I think it's safe to say that your future kids' genetic deck is stacked between the two of you! So happy for you, <name>!
• While the results of my detailed investigation into <name>'s background is forthcoming, I'm happy to give him the 'tick of approval' anyway. I'm delighted for you both!
• Thank you for being such a dear friend to me. My heart is so full knowing that you have each other.
  
  

If you're a friend of the groom, you're in luck. Something that will make him and his partner smile or have a chuckle is excellent, especially if it's an appropriate inside joke! Consider your shared interests, memories and adventures together as you write. Depending on your relationship with the couple, you may have a treasure trove of options. If you choose to use humour, avoid being offensive or deprecating; show some restraint. It is his wedding, after all. Be sure to be inclusive and congratulate both the bride and groom.

• So grateful to call you my friend and be here for you today; all the best to you both!
• Thank you for being such a great friend to me. I'm excited to see the life you and <name> build together.
• Congratulations mate! Not to worry, we've got an extra seat in the big rig for <name>. Congratulations guys!
• Well done! You've finally accomplished something worth mentioning. So happy for you and <name>.
• They say there is plenty of fish in the sea, but the catch you just reeled in is out of your league. Congratulations!
• Technically, your wedding only counts as one achievement. In light of that fact, a single congratulation to you and your lovely wife!
  

If you have been asked to serve as a wedding party member, you're a vital part of the festivities and a special friend. You may even be a family member. In your wedding card, you might consider thanking them for the privilege to be amongst their inner circle, sharing your thoughtful advice or offering your ongoing support to the couple. A well-considered message in a card from a groomsman or bridesmaid can be a treasured keepsake for life. Being a close friend, you have a unique opportunity to bring lightness and joy to the couple as they begin their life together.

• Standing by you today is a distinct honour, and I'm so grateful to be your groomsman and friend. Cheers to you on your wedding and for many years to come.
• To be asked to be a bridesmaid is such a precious chance to see you into the next chapter of your lives. I consider myself so lucky to be your friend.
• Oh, the memories! There are so many moments from today that will live forever in my mind. I'm so pleased to have shared them with you.
• Thank you for being a brother and a rock for me; to be alongside you and <name> today is the best feeling.